Thomas A asked:


I saw a snake near my house and I believe that there might be a family, so I’m wondering if there is anyway to get rid of them without calling an expert, so that I don’t have to waste all the money and inconvenience.

jessickahopeless asked:


Alright, I went through a little time where I was depressed, and my aunt helped me out alot. She found me an apartment and bought me some furniture and paid my security deposit for me when my boyfriend lost his job.

She has a lot of money. She had a good job for 45 years, and no kids or husband.

She put all the bills in her name to jump start my motivation. The place was basically ready for me and my family to move in. Two weeks later my boyfriend started his new job and it is really good.

Unfortunately shortly after, she got a little crazy and controlling. The apartment was across the street from her house.

She started calling me daily and criticizing everything I did. She would walk over to my apartment on garbage night to see if my garbage was out yet. Every week. And when it wasn’t out she would call me and yell at me because she couldn’t sleep because my garbage wasn’t out. Every week I told her that my boyfriend would take it out when he got off work because he works nights. But she still called me every week to yell at me for not taking the garbage out. And every week I’d have to explain it to her again.

Then she would watch to see when i did my laundry and I guess she looked in my window? And she would yell at me even if it seemed I wasn’t doing my laundry frequently enough for her.

Then the things she would yell at me about got weirder. Like she would make up things she assumed were happening over here at my apartment and then yell at me for them. Things that weren’t even happening.

At this point, I still hadn’t lost it because I was still very grateful that she helped me out when my family was in a rut.

She started treating my son mean. He’s two. She would constantly fight with him over the smallest things. She would tell me he had too many toys, and that I bought him too much stuff for his birthday and that he didn’t deserve them. At the same time she would buy my daughter something every time she went out. Eventually she told me she didn’t even want him in her home. I started to lose it here a little cause I don’t agree with anything she says ever and I know that the way she treats them is wrong because it is not equal.

Now, the bills were in her name, but my address. Occasionally they would get delivered to her house, but most of the time they would get delivered to mine. One time, a gas bill got delivered to her house that was mine and she kept it there until four days before it was due, and two of those days were a sunday and labor day. So, of course it was late, but it was not my fault. The following bill also got delivered to her house and it stated that I had not paid the previous month when I had. She freaked out because of this, and then decided that I suck at life and she changed my bills into her name and address, and said she was going to pay them and I would pay her. I did not agree with this because I was not at fault, and a fight ensued. I refused to pay this way. She also put letters in my mailbox everyday harassing me and called my house harassing me almost everyday until I blocked her from calling there.

Well, since she changed the bills at my apartment to her name and address, she got accused of not reporting income from rental properties or businesses, about a month later. She still put the bills for my property in my mailbox for me to pay. She needed me to sign off on some paperwork that stated that I lived at the property in question and paid all bills. She insisted that I come to her house and sign them, and she would not leave them in my mailbox like she did with many letters. So I refused to sign her papers. I don’t know whatever happened with that.

She threatened to shut off my utilities but never did. I continued to pay them, and she kept putting them in my mailbox. Well eventually she wrote me another letter that was less mean, and I wrote her back saying that I didn’t hate her and that I didn’t appreciate her nagging me when she has no idea how much I actually do in a day with two small children (2 and 11 months) and a boyfriend that worked all night. It said that I didn’t need her nagging me when I’m an adult and handle everything well and she just added to my stress.

So she wrote me a letter back that said she knew I was overwhelmed and that I took my anger out on her.

That is not what happened. I wasn’t overwhelmed at all until she started doing all the stupid stuff she does. That’s what put me over the edge. We were close to making up, but I think that I am happier without her bothering me all the time. I don’t know how to tell her this, or if I should just let her back into my life because she has nothing of her own to do or take care of. I have to make a decision today, because I been blowing her off for like two weeks.

What would you do in this situation?

Caleb’s Momma asked:


Okay I wrote my dad a letter, he lives out of state, left my mother, brother and I for another woman, and has raised her two children from a previous marraige for the last 10 years. Also moved 2,000 mls away from us. He’s done countless hurtful things over the past 10 years, some of which are too intense to even go into. I realize this is a long time coming…. he calls once every 3 months and pretends like everything is okay, when time and time again I’ve told him how much he’s hurt us, I’ve never received an ounce of acknowledgement. His wife called me a few weeks ago offering to “help with wedding plans” (I’m getting married in 4 months) So i took him up on it via email, financially speaking, considering my mother is contributing and his parents are helping, I figured maybe my dad would help… well he directly ignored all 3 of the emails I sent him regarding this. He also promised he’d come see his first grandchild immediately and Caleb is now 4 months old and my father has yet to come. I’ve always been so afraid of confronting my father (yes I know pathetic for a 25 year old)…. totally a codependent wanting to protect his feelings…. when I always wind up getting hurt. And here I am sending out my feelings FINALLY and still i’m worried about hurting him. I know it would be too hard to explain all of the details in this email but please tell me if it was well written and well spoken, without being blatantly mean. Serious answers only. And thankyou in advance. I’m really struggling emotionally with this situation, I feel liberated and at the same time very scared that I’ve hurt the bastard! Help! Thankyou.

Dear Dad,
I’m very hurt that you are choosing not to help with the wedding, & this is very apparent to me by your obvious lack of response. More than the money, the lack of acknowledgment is what hurts the most, along with all of our other issues you’ve chosen to never acknowledge.
I’ve never asked you for much of anything because I knew that I was always talking to a brick wall, & when I have, even if it was just 50 dollars for school books I was denied. Your folks could’ve contributed, or helped you contribute something. You’ve chosen all these years to support another family. I hear that Sheri is going to a private University and living on campus, info that Victoria wasn’t supposed to relinquish, must be pricey! My Mom has done it all financially as well as in every other way. I realize I am an adult but maybe seeking this help was sort of just to see what you were made of, some sort of redemption for the past, your lack of acknowledgment for your mistakes has really worn on me. I will not pretend that everything is okay anymore. How do you just ignore your child? Any response would’ve been okay, but no response is ridiculous! It makes me realize how little you are willing to invest in the rehabilitation of our relationship, no acknowledgement makes that very clear. You haven’t made much of an attempt to come see your first grandchild, whatever your excuses are, all of them are unacceptable. If Caleb ever had a child, I wouldn’t care if my job was at stake. I would make damn sure I was on the first plane I could find to see him/her and connect. You claim Jamie won’t give you the time of day. His reasons are very apparent to me. You’ve not been out to see your children in 5 years, and you wonder why they have issue with you? It’s all us in your mind, it has absolutely nothing to do with you. It’s mind boggling to me that you can’t understand it. You should’ve done everything in your power to make it right with him, even if it meant getting on a plane immediately to do it. Whatever your excuses are you are the parent, we are adults but you have always been the parent, and it’s been your responsibility to keep connected and in touch with us considering you were the one that moved away from us! I don’t believe that you pray for me everyday, if that’s the case how is it that you only pick up the phone once every 3 months? Your mushy, gushy behavior when you do call doesn’t cut the cake anymore, you don’t call me but once every three months and then act like Father of the year…… You haven’t played the part for a very long time. I won’t pretend anymore, it’s not healthy for me to continue a relationship with you at this point. Live your life in denial for as long as you need to but I refuse to be an enabler. You want to “walk me down the aisle, and give me away”…. but I am not yours to give away, considering you have not contributed physically (not being in the same state even), emotionally or financially to my wellness. I’m sorry if this hurts your feelings, but you’ve never made an effort to protect my feelings, at this point I don’t want you at my wedding. When/if you ever decide to be different maybe it would be open for discussion, till then,….

The end says….
I don’t expect a response. I know I probably won’t get one & that’s fine because I did this for myself. I’m liberating myself from an unhealthy relationship that is toxic to my life, I’m sorry it can’t be different. You can’t just be a Father when it’s convenient for you, and this has become very inconvenient for me, so I’m done.
Love you and always hope the best for you.

HK asked:


It’s a weird scam that tells you that you have viruses when you don’t. It’s really annoying and can be really damaging and it tries to scam you out of money. It’s really hard to get rid of. I have found free downloads for detection, but then, you have to pay money to get rid of the viruses. Does anyone know of a completely free program that I can use to get rid of any trace of the Antivirus 360 program? Please help! Thank you.

HK asked:


It’s a weird scam that tells you that you have viruses when you don’t. It’s really annoying and can be really damaging and it tries to scam you out of money. It’s really hard to get rid of. I have found free downloads for detection, but then, you have to pay money to get rid of the viruses. Does anyone know of a completely free program that I can use to get rid of any trace of the Antivirus 360 program? Please help! Thank you.