So I wrote my EX a letter, spanning 6 pages, detailing how much I love him, how good we are together and what could change to make us stronger.
We split due to trust issues and him not feeling as strongly for me anymore. All couples go through bad pathes, they sale through, he just gives up. He is on the rebound with another guy atm. I know this because they are not suited to say the least.
I don’t want to wait, I’m going to (painfully) move on with my life somehow, going for some job interviews, keeping up with the gym and learning to drive.
He came back to me once before, maybe he needs time to realise what we have .. or maybe not.
So I’m not sending the letter, we cut contact yesterday for good, and although he really wanted me to stay in his life, if I’m to move on I can’t be his friend.
I wrote him another letter, saying “I did write you that letter, but I fear if I sent it, it would be in vain, if someday you want to know what I wrote, let me know.”
I know I get told to move on, he doesn’t want me ect ect, maybe if you stopped for once second and thought about it. I still love him, and he still loves me.
Love trumps all .. otherwise why do we go on?
Thanks PMVlvr – I don’t want friendship, I know 100% I don’t want to be anything other than his love.
You know the other day he kissed me and told me he still loved me.
sorry VMPlvr!! and thanks for the poster below, some encouraging answers, thank you x
Marki don’t disrespect yourself.
my boyfriend broke up with me. we got back together twice. both times him coming back to me. and both time because of his issues. sometimes relationships end. and im sorry. send the letter, but know that if he really does want it to be over, that the letter may end any chance of a friendship, but it might also get you back together.
Np. and maybe you have a chance then. just be friends (i know it hurts) and i have a feeling it will work out. but no letter! if it works out. then give him the letter when your back together. i tell him “this is what i was going to send you =// but i do too scared” :] it would be adorable.
and omg you spelt my name wrong T_T
=o my post is getting messy. stop talking to me ^_^ lmao. im j/k :] your welcome for the help. if you need help just email my retarded email adress (i dont like it T_T) and ill help you. i have to much drama in my life >_>
:] and my name is kyle buuuut i like vaughn ^_^ VMPlvr is just what i use for everything cuz i always forget my loggin names :3
You should give him time, he’ll come around, I went through the same thing with my girlfriend, but she realized that we were in love and she came back. Whatever you do, don’t bother trying to forget them, I did that once and it made it hurt more, then I finally forgot and they came back, dropping a bomb on my whole life. Try and think about them but not too much, if your right about him loving you (which people usually are) he’ll realize he can’t live without you and come back and you’ll be happy.
It’s time to move on. Even if you get back together, what else is left?
you both are already left to go. It’s going to be dating on windows then….
I think it is time for you to move on. If he is already seeing someone else, he doesn’t feel as strongly for you. And this isn’t the first breakup so it is better to get over it now as heartbreaking as it is. And since he has trust issues, it is better not to be involved. Jealousy will break a relationship everytime. Find someone else without insecurities.
I’m pleased you wrote the letter and I’m pleased that you didnt send it. The stuff you wrote down is therapy.
Now, fold the letter up and put it away. Keep it safe, because one day you will find it again, read it and realise how valuable it was then, but how unimportant it is now.
Love is great. But its not enough.
Your relationship with him has just hit a rough spot, as most usually do. He obviously still has strong feelings, otherwise he would not have kissed you and told you that he is still in love with you. I wouldnt try to move on just yet….i think that he is going to come back. And like you said yourself, the other guy is just a rebound.
If it doesnt work out the way you hope, then the most you can do is be friends. I know it will probably hurt….but just keep the special people in your life. Im sorry youre going through this
Feel free to message if you need it. Best of luck to you 
Issue him with an ultimatum. Tell him that you don’t want friendship; you want love or nothing at all. And if he goes mental, telling you not to administer imperatives then stuff him. He obviously doesn’t want you in the same manner that you want him.
Love and friendships do not mix. Period.
Friendships lead to proximity. Proximity leads to renewed or unearthed, dormant feelings resurfacing and then this leads to you making a fool out of yourself.
Unless he wants you back and is willing to get rid of the other guy and give you two a go; call it quits, is what I say – and it’s what I would do. You are worth too much to obsess over what he thinks if he doesn’t like you.
I really don’t know what to say.
My heart does go out to you.
You will be stronger for this, but you must move on.
It’s over.
It is possible he might come back to you, but also very possible that he may not. If you wait for him what you are doing is allowing him to control your feelings and your actions, which sounds like what he wants. Don’t let him control your actions. Be a strong person and do what makes you most happy. If he sees you happy he will understand what a great guy he has lost and he will be miserable.