Mark Gungor tells women how to get a man to do what they want. Asking a man to do something once is like never having asked him at all. …
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Are you kidding me? My husband asks, no that’s inaccurate, my husband TELLS me to do things, usually an extensive list of things ALL THE TIME! But God forbid I ask him to do something! He looks at me like I’ve grown a second head. And he’s the one who speaks to me as if I am one of the children to be ordered about hither and thither… Which I don’t really think is healthy for the children either. Chores? Yes! But they aren’t our servants just as we are not theirs.
very well said…. and i’m a woman
You’re absolutely right. Men aren’t complicated and rarely ask for much other than a neat house and a hot meal. When you care for a man and respect him, you won’t even have to ask, he’d make sure you’re comfortable too.
How many times do husband come home and ask their wives to do a list of chores? Rarely to never. How many women seek to help their husbands? Sure, men should be helpful and live in an understanding way with their wives, but women, your husband is not one of your children. Try respect and gratfulness as you die to your own agenda and watch how he starts earnestly wanting to bless you by helping.
Asking is fine, ask away we will do pretty much anything you want us to do, to avoid a showdown we can’t win (we like winning), but please, PLEASE use short sentences with a subject, a verb and an objective that relate exactly to what you want. We don’t multi-task, interpret codes or read clues, any kind of guessing game will end in tears (ours). TELL/ASK WE WILL DO….then TV, beer, sex, food, more TV, more beer….
hah! (helldiver1) i agree totally.
Why is it that men expect children to do as there asked the first time and yet they dont think they should have to do things the first time they are asked. Women dont think they should have to ask more then once because that is what we are taught growing up.
LOL…….Yea we do, do that……Sorry
I would never put the laundry basket there with no verbal request and just expect the man to read my mind. That would be stupid. What I’m describing is a situation where I’m doing the dishes, the laundry is in the same room as the TV, and hubby is watching TV. I ask, “Could you put away the laundry during commercials?” He says, “Sure.” But then he never does it, although it’s right there in his field of vision. Maybe the commercials are just too fascinating?
yeah nag is the key!
Man you are RIGHT.. I hate guessing with my girl. Ex: “So I am tired today.. Do you know why”? Now for god’s sake how many ways can a human get tired? Should I guess them all? In reality (after a little fight) she wants to say: I need to give her a massage.
I’m not religious, and in my OPINION that statement sounded very ignorant. Religion or not, if your helping (or having respect for) others better themselves I don’t see that being a waste of time.
No….OK, the visual is the basket and the verbal is you asking. So saying “Babe, please bring up the basket at the bottom of the stairs when you come up.” WORKS! We see the visual that’s in our flight path and u saying it more than once helps with the verbal. How do we know you didn’t put it there so YOU could take it up. I’ve tried to help before, and the next thing I know, I’m in trouble because I didn’t put the stuff away as she wanted it done. That’s why I will always step over that basket.
WHY OH FOR THE LOVE OF SWEET JESUS WHY CAN’T THEY JUST SAY WHAT THEY WANT??!!??
“This floor, is disgusting, you let the dog in didnt you?” “I can’t stand LOOKING at this floor another minute, look, is that mud? Are those feathers? Was there an ANIMAL in here??” “Who came in here with muddy shoes??” blahblahblah…
Here’s and idea: WHY DON’T YOU JUST SAY: “would you please clean the floor today?”
THEN WE WILL CLEAN IT. Guessing/interpretation of signs/hints etc, we DONT DO.
Then how can I respect someone that is so full of themselves that they believe that we as humans should understand and influence every aspect of life because we are always right. But I do respect you and everyone else because it is what my religion teaches to be the right thing to do. I believe in a righteous God of justice and truth. I admit that I am not always right so I look to my God for guidance.
Hmmmmm… And at the same time, we’re always told that men respond better to pictures than to talk because they’re so very visual. We’re told that talking is the women’s medium. Sounds like men are visual when they want to be, but verbal when they don’t want to see the laundry. LOL
Royalsteven is so right!
We will do ANYTHING for a woman who simply gives us what we need, and does not use sex as some sick game…. or a reward.
Have yet to meet such a woman , been looking for over 20 years.
Starts out ok, then becomes all about HER.
One good tip. Keep the man “happy” and you won’t have to worry about infidelity, money, chores etc.
So damned easy, unless you are too concerned about “what has he done for me lately”.
Which is where we always start.
The previous guy!
Ok OK, asking is verbal!!!! Hints do not work!!!! Leaving laundry in the middle is not a request it’s and obstacle in our path to overcome!! you have to SAY IT and SAY IT more then ONCE
Great stuff. One comment, though. The woman who puts the laundry basket in the middle of the living room IS asking more than once. The laundry basket is doing it for her.. over and over and over and over…
Oops. cont–> the progress of human knowledge, and to better our human existance for generations to come, is to stop passing along outdated knowledge to our children.. Religion is a like a disese, and how can I respect some stupid idiot who whole heartedly believes Im going to hell.. But hey, people are people, and they will believe what they want to believe, and why should I try to stop them..
In that respect, I do not respect half the people in America. I my OPINION, I believe that anyone who believes in a religion is not being true to themselves. And in more harsher terms, wasting they’re time on this planet. I believe that to further the
Does that mean that you have no respect for a least half of the people of America. I have respect for you and anyone whether you believe in God or not, Thats the big difference. So if there turns out there is no god, it wont really matter will it, so my time on earth will be led by example of having respect for all, not just a small fraction of people who believe a certain way.
Does that mean that you have no respect for a least half of the people of America. I have respect for you and anyone whether you believe in God or not, Thats the big difference. So if there turns out there is no god, it wont really matter will it, so my time on earth will be led by example of having respect for all, not just a small fraction of people who believe a certain way.
Because its hard to see how someone with a realatively logical mind can believe in a fairy tale. Its almost sort of hipocratic.
Loth,,,what does Being a Pastor have to do with you having respect for him.